4 Ways to Stick with Your Resolutions - #4 of 4 REDUX

Remember we're using the acronym GOAL to keep our resolutions fresh and action - oriented year-round.   The first three were G -- GET GOING NOW!!, O – OUTCOME, A -- ALLOW.  Let’s continue … 

Are you filling in your table/grid?  Are you tracking those resolutions daily?  Are you visualizing your self in that goal?  Can you see yourself in the outcome in the here and now?  Are you allowing yourself to make and learn from your mistakes?  Are you remembering you’re human??!?!

#4 of 4

L = LOVE 

About 33 years ago, I saw a TV interview with a jazz musician. He was asked by the reporter why is it he has a strict policy to love every song he records.  The musician replied that if he didn’t love every song AND it became a hit, he was playing a song he disliked for the rest of his life!  

Keep this in mind when fulfilling your goal.  "I need to lose 50 lbs" is torture.  "I want to create healthy cuisine and a better lifestyle" is much more appealing.

Love your goal! Embrace your goal! Find your goal irresistible! Be passionate about your goal! Love the action you’re taking to realize your goal!  Love how you are kind to yourself to achieve your goal! Love the outcome! Love, love, love, love your goal!  And love the process!

CALL TO ACTION:  I would love to hear about your resolutions and your journey to fulfillment. Contact me at crystal@coachingwithcrystal.com or join the Facebook group Coaching with Crystal (https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithcrystalfanpage) to update me.  I love to hear your progress‼

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4 Ways to Stick with your Resolutions - #3 of 4 REDUX

We're using the acronym GOAL to keep our resolutions fresh and action - oriented year-round.   The first two were G -- GET GOING NOW!! and O – OUTCOME.  Let’s continue … 

Are you filling in your table/grid?  Are you tracking those resolutions daily?  Are you visualizing your self in that goal?  Can you see yourself in the outcome in the here and now? 

#3 of 4

A = ALLOW 

The early part of 2002 was tough for me.  While I was still reeling from the events of 9/11, I was going through a divorce; I was in a stormy relationship and I weighed 203 pounds.  What turned my life around? One day in February 2002 I got out of breath while tying my sneakers.  I had had it!  I was ready for a change.  The divorce didn’t get signed overnight nor did my current relationship change significantly but I did change my healthy mindset overnight.  Friday I couldn’t tie my sneakers without panting; Saturday morning I was jogging (actually walking not jogging!) in the park, grocery shopping for more nutritious meals and snacks, and losing weight.  Within 5 weeks I lost 8 ½ pounds!  

I knew it would be tough – I love desserts! But by mid-2003 I weighed 149 pounds.  How did I lose the weight and still have dessert? I allowed myself to have my cake and eat it too!  I allowed myself to make mistakes AND LEARN FROM THEM! I allowed myself to have dessert, an extra cookie or two, and discover more about my character.  I learned about my food triggers and my emotional eating habits.  At first it was distressing, but I got an accountability partner (someone whom I would update with my meal intake, eating habits and issues).  I spoke to her twice a week.  In turn, she was telling me about her food issues.  It worked!  WE both allowed ourselves to veer from the ultimate goal only to come back on track quickly.  By the way WE BOTH have kept the weight off since then!  

CALL TO ACTION:  Get 3 accountability partners to achieve your goal.  Yes, 3!! Two of your accountability partners are people who live more than 50 miles (80 kilometers) away from you.   

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Euphemisms? What do I really mean??!!?!

Quote:  When I was a kid I was known as a fussy eater. 'Fussy eater!' That's what they called it in my house. "He's a fussy eater." 'Fussy eater' is a euphemism for "Big pain in the ass. -- George Carlin

Perspective (in video) from Small Changes are HUGE!!!:

Call to Action:  Think of 3 new acronyms to motivate you.  Ex:  WTF = Wow, that's fantastic!  Repeat them 5 times a day for the next 2 weeks. Rinse, lather, repeat.

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Happy vs. Thankful -- REDUX

Quote:  Happiness has nothing to do with your life's circumstances; it’s based on your ability to accept the things you are experiencing. – Nishan Panwar

Perspective:  My level of acceptance depends on my happiness at that moment.  Have I eaten a meal?  Do I need to go to the bathroom?  Am I waiting for a NYC bus in January? 

Or does my level of happiness depend on my acceptance in that moment?  Can I network (or commiserate or just chat) with others after my meal or while waiting for the bus?  What is possible if I’m open?

Yes even if I have to pee … something incredible is possible!!

Accepting is a knowing that whatever comes, I will get through with flying colors.  It’s about bending and being ready for whatever comes my way. 

Have you ever been fired or laid off?  Was your next job more amazing than the previous one?  Or did you start a business that changed the world?  Or just changed YOUR world and YOUR way of thinking?  

When my father died, I realized my mother was my only living parent.  Previous to that, my relationship with her was fractured.  We had little in common.  Did I really want to hang out with her without Dad?!?!!!?? 

One Thanksgiving holiday, Mom and I were watching a comedy film on TV.  It was also one of my father’s favorite films of all time.  Previous to that, I didn't remember Mom EVER enjoying this film.  In fact, I remember her saying it was vulgar.  Now she was laughing so loud and long, she told me her stomach hurt.  In the past, I remember my father loving this comedy and he would laugh so loud and long his stomach would hurt.  My father was there with us watching.  

That’s the day that changed us both.  We started to talk.  Our journey to friendship and hilarity grows every day.

By the way, Mom is 86.  Yes she’s still a pistol!!  

Thank you Mom for showing me acceptance!   

PS >> Yes, I have thanked her in person. 

Call to Action:  What do I continuously justify in my life today?  How am I feeling my way is the only way?  What can I turn over and become free of resentment or remorse or guilt?  Can I hear another point of view?  

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To Depend on Confidently -- REDUX

Quote:  Relying on God has to begin all over again every day as if nothing had yet been done. -- C.S. Lewis

Perspective: I took dance lessons and danced professionally (modern, jazz, tap) from the age of 10 until I was 25 years old.  I remember both loving and dreading dancing. Even though I was attending class 3 times a week, I knew the routines, and I loved learning in the "trade," I had to treat each lesson and performance as if it were new. Yes I did learn a little more everyday and I built more knowledge with each lesson/performance.  But the synergy was different with every lesson and every performance. I didn't want to acknowledge that.  I was irritated when my dance teachers said I needed to rely on my dance partner or the other dancers in the group or the music or something else besides me. I didn't realize I was the Ying; they were the Yang.

Opposites are flip sides of the same coin. Up, down, left, right - they all "need" each other. 

Is God the flip side of me? I think God is more an integral part of me. How do I see that part of me more readily? I recognize I need help from God EVERYDAY. I expect greatness from God EVERYDAY. I show my love and joy for God EVERYDAY. God allows me and blesses me to see the road map of my life EVERYDAY. God please give me the clarity and eagerness to recognize and take advantage of your guidance EVERYDAY.

Call to Action:  Be a car for one day. Are you restarting the engine with a bad carburetor, no spark plugs, or the gas gauge on E?  What do you need to refuel and get your car humming? How many mechanics do you need to fix this car? 

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